Feeling Important? Deepak Says You Pity Yourself

Deepak Chopra once said:

“All self-importance is a form of self-pity in diguise.”

It's very easy to become reactive around a quote like this. After all, our egos like to be important. Shifting into judgment is pretty easy, fast, and feels natural.

After all, who wants to admit that they pity themselves?

And even moreso, with the number of times throughout a day most of us feel important (consciously or unconsciously), we wouldn't want to admit that each of those times we are pitying ourselves.

That's a lot of self-pity in disguise!

(If Deepak is right…)

So we unconsciously shift our attention away from the feelings of self-pity and into self-importance.

Here's the deal…

If we must “make” ourselves feel better / superior / “important” to other people, then this shows us that we actually feel worse / inferior / unimportant and are trying to cover up our feelings of inferiority. We react by trying to cover up (usually unconsciously) our feelings that we don't want to experience.

Feelings that Deepak calls, “self-pity.”

This is basically why bullies hurt other kids — so that the bully can feel superior because deep down the bull feels inadequate or inferior. That causes the acting out as a means to try and gain control over their lives since they feel out of control.

You might be thinking:

“I know about that. I know the feeling. I actually go the other way- I'm afraid to enjoy my accomplishments because I don't want to appear to be self-centered.”

This is also a form of self-pity.

Avoiding one's true authentic power is a way of pitying one's self. It's basically like saying, “I am not good enough to be loved, appreciated, and seen EXACTLY as I am. Therefore, I will under-represent myself in an in-authentic way so that I can avoid my fears of being rejected by others.”

This may seem to make the issue more complex. You might also be thinking to yourself:

“What if you showed up as self-centered? Whats the worst thing that could happen? Your friends will agree that you're awesome and your enemies will hate you because you showed up! In the end its what YOU think of YOU! Just show up! You can adjust how to show up anytime you want.”

After all, on one hand self-importance is a form of self-pity. Yet at the same time, we all have a divine need to own, honor, and express our true authentic power.

What's the difference?

The difference is between self-importance and authentic self-centeredness…

Self-importance is about making judgmental comparisons. Self-importance is about saying, “I am one way. Other people are another way. And I feel better than those people for certain reasons.” The challenge with this thinking is that it will eventually back towards your self as a form of self-pity (otherwise there would be no need to comparatively judge).

On the other hand, authentic self-centeredness (or authentic power) is really about owning your total, complete, and full awesomeness without any need to compare. In other words, you simply show up, express yourself authentically, and trust that who you are IS good enough in that given moment.

It's not that you are good enough for any specific reason that your ego can think of.

You are good enough for one specific reason.

And one reason only.

There is *no* other reason why you are good enough than this single reason:


Let that sink in.