Is It True… That What You Resist, Persists?

We've heard this before: “What you resist, persists.” The most common context is the Law of Attraction and manifestation teachings.

Yet one person wrote that it just doesn't seem to make sense in relation to people who have abject poverty. Especially those born into it.

The thought pattern goes something like this:

“If a person is resisting their poverty, all they have to do is stop resisting it. Then they can have all the money in the world.”

Now if you were to tell this to a person in abject poverty, they'd probably think you are crazy. They might become angry or sad. It's highly unlikely they would appreciate this kind of condescending view of their life experience.

The reason is that while it's possible that thought pattern might be true, it's also possible it might not be. Reality might not support a person in this way.

Manifestation is not just about our own wants and desires. It's about aligning our wants and desires with the intentions of the Divine. When this alignment is in place, we see the world support us in living full, authentic, loving Truth-filled lives.

The only things that we actually resist are our ideas about reality. We expect reality to be a certain way. When it's not, we often face inner resistance resistance because we want things how they were. We want things to be how we expect them to be.

This difference between how reality is -and how we want or expect it to be- is what causes us pain and suffering. The reason is simple: We are rejecting our immediate experience.

This experience of rejection and pain is what we are resisting. We are saying, “I don't want this. I want it to go away. Make it go away.” This resistance forces the pain to persist because each time we feel the pain, we resist it. The resistance causes more pain to persist, which we then try to resist. It's a downhill spiral that creates more pain.

The only way to stop the pain is to finally stop resisting it. To acknowledge: “Pain is in my experience right now. I may not like it. It may not feel good. And, I accept that it is here right now.”

When this kind of attitude is combined with Presence, some of the energy of the pain to dissipate. Over time, less rejection means less pain. Eventually, the pain does go away when we stop resisting it.

Instead of being a downward spiral, we create an upward spiral towards higher living.

This is a secret to overcoming heartbreak and grief. Too many people are scared that if they actually feel and experience their pain, they will be overwhelmed by it. This causes them to shut off those emotions.

On the flip side, some people believe that if they keep feeling their pain constantly, eventually it will go away. This is also not necessarily true.

It depends if they are merely reliving the past and staying stuck. This is is a form of resistance to the Present moment, and therefore perpetuates their pain and stuckness…

Or if they are experiencing the pain from a place of acceptance. For example:  “This happened to me in the past. Right now I am experiencing pain from it. And this is okay. I will be with it” and they practice a Presence-based form of mindfulness.

The pain persists because we resist it -either by pushing it away and trying not to feel it- or by feeling it and saying “It shouldn't be this way.”

The only way to escape BOTH of these cycles it to fully accept the pain, as it is, without judging it and without expecting it to be any way other than what is showing up right now, in this Present moment.

Now to ask the question again:

Is it true that what you resist persists?

Personal Reflection Questions

In exploring the profound insights shared in the blog post, it becomes evident that understanding the dynamics of resistance and acceptance holds transformative potential in our lives. The following reflection questions serve as guiding lights, illuminating the pathways to self-awareness and personal growth. By delving into moments of resistance, we uncover recurring patterns and themes that shape our experiences, inviting us to navigate reality with greater clarity and intentionality.

Recalling instances of resistance allows us to examine the underlying beliefs and expectations fueling our responses to challenging situations or emotions. Through introspection, we discern the impact of resistance on our ability to engage authentically with life's complexities. Moreover, reflecting on the concept of manifestation as alignment with Divine intentions illuminates moments of profound harmony in our lives, where our deepest desires converge with the unfolding of universal wisdom.

Exploring the relationship between resistance and pain unveils the intricate dance between our inner turmoil and external experiences. By acknowledging and accepting painful emotions with presence and mindfulness, we pave the way for healing and transformation. Embracing radical acceptance offers a profound shift in our relationship with pain, fostering resilience and inner peace amidst life's inevitable challenges.

As we navigate the cyclical nature of resistance and persistence, these reflection questions guide us towards breaking free from patterns of suffering and cultivating a deeper sense of acceptance and presence.

By revisiting the fundamental question, “Is it true that what you resist persists?” we embark on a journey of self-discovery, integrating newfound insights into our lives with grace and compassion.

Through these reflections, we embrace the wisdom that in acceptance lies the key to liberation, inviting us to embrace life's unfolding with open hearts and minds:

  1. Reflecting on moments of resistance in your life, what were some recurring patterns or themes? How did these instances of resistance shape your experiences and interactions with reality?
  2. Can you recall a time when you resisted a challenging situation or emotion? What were the underlying beliefs or expectations fueling this resistance? How did this resistance impact your ability to navigate through the experience?
  3. Consider the concept of manifestation as aligning personal desires with Divine intentions. Reflect on a time when you felt a sense of alignment with your deepest intentions. How did this alignment influence the unfolding of events in your life?
  4. Explore the notion that resistance arises from discrepancies between our expectations and reality. In what areas of your life do you notice the most significant gaps between expectation and reality? How does this gap contribute to feelings of inner resistance or discomfort?
  5. Reflect on the relationship between resistance and pain. How has resisting painful emotions or experiences affected your overall well-being? Can you identify moments when acknowledging and accepting pain led to a shift in your perception or experience?
  6. Consider the concept of presence as a catalyst for releasing resistance. Reflect on a time when you embraced painful emotions with presence and mindfulness. How did this approach differ from resisting or avoiding the pain? What insights or transformations emerged from this practice?
  7. Explore the dichotomy between fearing overwhelming emotions and continuously experiencing pain. Reflect on your own relationship with emotional discomfort. Are there moments when you lean towards avoidance or immersion? How does this approach influence your journey towards healing and growth?
  8. Reflect on the nature of acceptance in the context of pain. How does fully accepting pain without judgment or expectation differ from resisting or denying it? Can you recall a time when practicing radical acceptance led to a shift in your relationship with pain?
  9. Consider the cyclical nature of resistance and persistence. Reflect on how resistance perpetuates cycles of pain and suffering in your life. What steps can you take to break free from these cycles and cultivate a deeper sense of acceptance and presence?
  10. Finally, revisit the question: “Is it true that what you resist persists?” Reflect on your evolving understanding of this statement in light of your personal experiences and reflections. How might embracing acceptance and presence offer a pathway towards transcending resistance and fostering inner peace?